Today is our 10 Year Anniversary.
It’s official, we’ve achieved the Tin/Aluminum Gift suggestion as per Wikipedia, yes it’s our 10 Year Anniversary. Seriously Tin/Aluminum??? Nowadays making 10 years and actually valuing one another equates to the Silver status of the 25th anniversary in my mind.
Over the past 10 years we’ve faced many challenges in our marriage, from little things like learning to live with each other to larger issues which rocked our world. We have seen many of our friends experience the heart-break of marriage break ups and the fall out which inevitably ensues, even in the most amicable of situations.
I come from a long line of Lifers.
Lifers are those who stay married, I can’t say whether or not all of the marriages were “happy” but almost all of my family members remained married in my experience. On the day of my marriage I was 29 years old, compared to many of my peers this was a late marriage.
I met my husband at the age of 27 when I wasn’t looking for a boyfriend let alone someone I would fall in love with. Frankly I was selfish…shocker I know but I was finishing school and intent on getting a great career going, living in a loft in the city and making a bundle of cash.
He didn’t fit the mold of the men I was dating at the time, much like how I would compare leather to pleather my husband swooped into my life exposing the plastic of the existence I’d chosen.
I can’t possibly review the past 10 years in detail now, suffice it to say that marriage isn’t easy. It’s not a fact, it’s something which must be worked on and focused upon. Back when we were married I firmly believed in having a 50/50 relationship.
Now my perspective is different, I stopped keeping a tally of who has done what in our relationship. Each day I ask God to help me give my husband 100% of myself. 100% of the best I can be…..now that’s not easy, my nature is to be somewhat selfish and it’s a struggle to put another human being first but over time God is teaching me and I’ve been able to improve.
Colossians 3:12-17 Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom,singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God. And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.