There are many things which held me back from becoming Christian. Most of them were my own failings and some were founded in what I perceived people’s expectations and behaviours to be.
It’s daunting to think of becoming Christian when you’re where I was. I was so imperfect, hyper-aware of my sins and flaws that it seemed impossible to live a life with what seemed rigid rules.
Thankfully I jumped the hurdle of my fears and found that Jesus Christ truly isn’t a leader who sits pointing a finger, he doesn’t require me to be perfect instantly. Through building a relationship with Christ I’ve gotten to know him and he’s changing me every day.
Humbling me, molding me into the person he means me to be. It’s not a smooth road, I’m a very typical human who errs and grows through it.
The fact remains that we’re all human and often perceive things in different ways. As a Christian we’re told to help each other to see our sins and grow through Christ by changing our ways…..specifically in my church we have a saying that “Iron Sharpens Iron”. I’m usually all about this because frankly I need all the help I can get at times…..
Recently I was in my car feeling very free and having a happy moment without children…..yes these are happy moments for me when I can blast whatever music I choose! Down with the top 40!!
Being the good social media gal I am, I posted this on Facebook:
The caption says: This is me in the car, without kids blasting @Pink the unedited version #HappyMommyTime. I put the same up on my personal profile but used the word “profanity” in it.
Continuing on with my day I went to my 12 Step recovery meeting and listened to folks who are mucking into life on life’s terms. God was there in the room with us, the base topic was humility and spirituality and as I left the meeting I was feeling lifted! As a person in recovery who attends meetings I have the benefit of facing my faith at each meeting I attend, I have an extended family who will call me on my junk and encourage me to progress upon my spiritual journey.
Iron Sharpens Iron!
Returning home I opened Facebook and saw I had a message from a person who attends the same church as we do. This is someone I haven’t had personal interactions with and certainly couldn’t ever have predicted what I read.
I’ll summarize his words, I don’t know that it’s either necessary or appropriate to quote him directly. He pointed out that he doesn’t know me well other than via this blog and Facebook but we attend the same church. He took time to point out that he’s imperfect and no different than myself or anyone else. Then he went on to “encourage” me to realize that by making public declarations of support for music or books with profanity I’m going against my public profession of a love for Christ.
Before I continue I’m saying right now very clearly that this person has contacted me since and clarified the intent was not to offend or be hurtful. He genuinely felt “called” to “guide” me. I ask that you not comment on this person’s views….they are his own and I respect them. I am looking to explore the delivery here, not the message.
Today I’m calling out to all my fellow Christians
It’s rare that I take a strong stand on anything but this one is dear to my heart. If we think that we can say whatever we want to one another simply because we share the same faith we’ll be driving people away.
Here’s a hint I’ve learned so far: If I’m spending time taking someone else’s inventory without them requesting it, I’m not spending enough time taking my own.
Putting it plainly God isn’t relying upon me to call out other people’s behaviours randomly. He’s got this.
Being my Facebook Friend Doesn’t Establish a Deep Relationship
With social media being what it is today we can easily be misled into believing that we actually have a relationship with people. I admit to the fact that I check updates of people I dig and have often had that awkward moment where someone I haven’t seen in a long time is updating me on their life events only to have me chime in commenting on the Facebook updates they’ve posted.
Even though we interact on social media from time to time, or you are keeping up on my life via status updates, unless we have sought out time together one on one we’re essentially still strangers.
Christ didn’t call us to judge each other, if and when we’re called to lead others it surely won’t be via a Facebook message to a stranger pointing out how you think they’ve sinned.
Christ calls us to enter into a relationship with one another, to nurture our faith and strengthen that of our fellow Christians via RELATIONSHIP.
The day I became a Christ follower nobody handed me a free pass to say what I like or to quote verses which point out people’s sins or behaviour defects. Christ has guided me down difficult realizations by using people in my life many times but never in quite this way.
Perhaps I am wrong to have posted this photo as a Christian, or by enjoying music with profanity, perhaps. But if I am, that’s my issue to explore.
While I will be exploring my taste in music relative to my faith, I’ll never think it’s appropriate behaviour to convey my beliefs to someone else in such a manner.
To my readers who aren’t Christian, the majority of Christians I know don’t judge. We are aware we are sinners and I don’t really think this person meant to come off as judgemental but in the end it did.
This situation has struck something deep in side of me which wants to draw away from the church. Worshipping alone is much easier…..but in the end God has called me to worship with other Christians and to grow in fellowship.
I’m told that Christianity is the faith of sinners, well then I should fit right in shouldn’t I?
We are told in the Bible to live in community, to create relationships and encourage each other.
Hebrews 10:24 And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds
I get this…..but when we simply approach another person whom we don’t have an established relationship with and point out flaws in behaviour is this really the LOVE Jesus lived?
From this situation I’ve learned a few things. That I can accept what I perceive as judgment with an open mind; that I’m willing to consider someone’s opinion and explore it though my faith and that I’ll never, EVER be able to predict people’s actions.
As the imperfect Christian I am I am writing to you all today merely hoping you’ll pause before you react to things. Before saying what may indeed be a very good point, consider your relationship with the person. Will you message be heard or will you be pushing someone further away from Christ?
From my perspective today I’m good enough, I’m smart enough and by golly I’m Christian enough.
Just for today!