The World of Mommy Bloggers is vast. With differing topics, backgrounds and dreams we come to you and lay it out for the world to see. With platforms like Twitter, Facebook, Google + available to us what we write lives on and often precedes us.
There is power in this; power which we can choose to use for our purposes or misuse if we happen to overlook it. The life of a blogger is often a busy one, balancing family and life responsibilities while managing bloggy things can be difficult to say the least. We do our best simply because we love blogging.
As one blogs over time, streamlining their brands it becomes a part of who they are. For many people they’ve finally found their life’s dream, perhaps their identity?
Cue the glittery stars and uplifting music as we picture a woman becoming empowered.
Mommy Bloggers Aren’t All The Same
Here we have our hypothetical empowered woman who is engaged with the online community, let’s call her Rita. Rita has amassed a network of contacts with fellow bloggers and brands. Rita feels confident in her circle and works every day/night to populate her blog with fabulous content for her readers and even runs giveaways to give her fans a chance to win.
Let’s just say that Rita is a friendly, warm person who works hard and leave it at that. One day Rita hears that there is a list being sold by a PR firm which includes blogger’s information. The list includes what she considers private information such as a home addresses, phone numbers, numbers and ages of children etc.
Let’s leave Rita for a moment and head over to another hypothetical blogger who we’ll name Blanche. Blanche has also worked diligently to build her blog’s audience and establish relationships with brands. When Rita hears about the blogger info list being sold she’s not surprised. In her mind we all are open to having our information out there when we choose to be active on the internet.
We have two very different points of view, now as bloggers one would think we could agree to disagree without stooping to bash one another right?
What Happens When Mommy Bloggers Disagree
Well in a perfect world bloggers wouldn’t feel the need for the mean girl mentality to come out, alas we don’t live in that world.
One would also think that a blogger realizes that their words precede them, and can be misunderstood if not carefully thought out.
Back to our scenario. Rita goes online and conveys her dismay with her information being public. She writes something like “Cannot believe XX company has sold bloggers private info, #prfail”.
Blanche reads this and many other posts and tweets from bloggers who are aghast. She is very irritated, thinking to herself “What the heck did these people think when they put their addresses online?” Blanche sees value in her name being passed to other PR agencies for business purposes and isn’t worried about them having her addresses.
So what does Blanche do? Well she begins responding in a positive manner, stating that this isn’t a unique practice and that such lists have been sold for years. Blanche points out the value in PR companies having information etc. Feeling quite good about sharing her view she is surprised when people don’t get it. Instead of seeing and agreeing with her views they continue stating that they felt it was an invasion of privacy and talks of litigation are being initiated.
Truly irritated Blanche continues to respond but her online tone has changed. She’s now presenting herself as condescending with comments along the lines of “Mommy bloggers wonder why they have a bad name. Tantrums about PR lists maybe?” or using words like “Ridiculous” and “Get Over It”.
Let’s put ourselves in Rita’s shoes for a minute, what do you think she thinks of Blanche’s response or anyone else who reads these comments for that matter?
Mommy Bloggers Slamming Each Other Is Unattractive
In the end, irrelevant of the topic I happen to believe there is NO value in slamming someone else to make my point. By being negative on a personal level we’ve essentially negated the value of our perspective.
I would find it very difficult to become enlightened by someone who was calling my worries ridiculous. Rather than choosing to become offensive with my comments couldn’t I make my point in a constructive way?
This happens all the time in the world of bloggers, we see people who have differing views bashing each other unnecessarily. There are even bloggers and brands who are taking screen shots of one another, covertly saving and sharing emails and private conversations; compelling evidence in order to protect themselves in future if necessary.
When does the madness end?
When will we reach the stage where high-school antics cease?
I’m calling out to you bloggers to man up and get in the ring with your big girl panties on. Bring with you your talents, your gifts, your quirks and have confidence. With this confidence add a bit of compassion, professionalism and insight to human behaviour.
I guarantee you this bloggy world is quite small, when we’re viewing someone in a poor light let’s keep it to ourselves and if necessary present our opinion in a dignified manner which can be respected.
Once again our words precede us and that image/brand we’ve worked hard to establish can be ruined with just one interaction…..because our words leave lasting impressions.
Come on now, let’s have a group hug and bring the integrity back to the craft we all love.